Mother-in-Law Rejected the Good Bride… Then the Wife She Chose Threw Her and Her Sick Son Out – YouTube Transcripts: If there is anyone here who knows a reason these two should not be joined together, let them speak now or forever hold their peace. Pastor, I cannot sit here and watch my only son make a mistake. Ma, stop. Baby, talk to me. Mama, what if something happens? Something like what? I heard her. Loretta was talking to another woman on the phone. Brielle, she said that woman should be ready when she calls her. And you still came here today? I love Julian. Love is not supposed to make you walk into fire with your eyes open. Naomi, I’m not trying to scare you, but that woman has been planning something. I know, but I wanted to give Julian one chance to choose me in front of everybody. And if he doesn’t? Then I will have my answer. You nervous? It’s my wedding day. Of course I’m nervous. No, this is not wedding nervous. This is your mama is too quiet nervous. She’s fine. Julian, you know your mother is not fine. Please don’t start today. I’m starting because nobody else will. That woman has been treating Naomi like she’s on trial. I talked to her. No. You pleaded with her. That is different. She’s beautiful. Then protect her. You came. I almost didn’t. We are gathered here today to join Julian Whitaker and Naomi Ethalson in holy matrimony. If there is anyone here who knows a reason these two should not be joined together, let them speak now or forever hold their peace. Oh my god. No, no, she better not. Pastor, I cannot sit here and watch my only son make a mistake. Ma, stop. This is Brielle Parker. She comes from a good family in Mississippi. She knows respect. She knows humility. She knows how to honor a husband and his mother. What is this? Please, let’s maintain order. Mrs. Whitaker, this is not appropriate. What is not appropriate is letting my son marry a woman who will one day take him away from his roots. That is not true. Isn’t it? Say something. She is educated, yes. Pretty, yes, but beauty and education do not build a peaceful home. You wicked woman. Denise, stop. Not here. Julian. Naomi, I That is all I needed to hear. No, baby, please. Naomi, don’t go. You didn’t lose me today because of your mother. You lost me because you still couldn’t choose me. Auntie, you didn’t save your son today. You broke him. [panting] First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes a baby This is Whitaker. Not yet. 32 days. 32 days. If you don’t get on my nerves before then. [laughter] Impossible, I believe. I am a peaceful man. You are a man. That That alone is not peaceful. I need to tell you something. That sounds dangerous. It’s not dangerous. Julian. My mother called last night. Mrs. Loretta? Yes. She said she wants to come from Mississippi and stay with us until the wedding. Stay with us? Just for a few weeks. A few weeks, Julian? She said in our family a mother must see the woman her son is marrying before the wedding. She called it tradition. Oh, and you agreed? She insisted, baby. You know I’m all she has. I know, but it’s always something. I don’t have a problem meeting your mother. I want her to like me. She will like you. You don’t know that. I know you. That’s enough. Girl, his mother is coming to stay until the wedding. Stay where? With us. With you and Julian in that house? Yes. Naomi, I love you, but that is not a visit. That is an inspection. An inspection? What do you mean? They’re coming to judge everything. Don’t start. I’m not starting. I’m warning. Some mothers don’t come to meet the bride, they come to test her. Renee. What? I said what I said. Be respectful, yes. Be kind, yes, but don’t break your back trying to impress somebody who may have already judged you. I just want peace. Peace is good, but don’t confuse peace with silence. Ready? Ready. Ma, you made it. My son, you look thin. Is anybody feeding you here? Ma, come on. So, this is her. Mrs. Whitaker, welcome. I’m so happy you’re here. Hm. You are very city. Thank you. It wasn’t exactly praise. Ma. I’m only joking. Don’t be sensitive, Naomi. Marriage needs a strong stomach. [laughter] Baby, this is amazing. It is fine. Thank you, ma’am. In Mississippi, women season food from the spirit, not from recipes on the internet. Ma, Naomi can cook. I didn’t say she couldn’t. I said city women cook differently. Everything looks pretty, but marriage is not decoration. I understand. Let’s just enjoy the meal. A wife must know how to keep a home, cover herself properly, respect elders, and not think a paycheck makes her equal to everybody. Ma, Naomi is a bank manager. She works hard. Work is good, but a woman can make money and still not know how to be a wife. My son, I need to speak plainly. What is it, Ma? That woman is not for you. No, me. She is too polished, too modern, too sure of herself. I did not raise you to marry a city woman who will one day look down on you. Mom, you don’t know her. She loves me. Love is easy before marriage. Character shows after. If you marry her, don’t say your mother didn’t warn you. You packed lunch for me? Yes. Don’t go buying fast food when there is food at home. Look at my wife already taking care of me. Not wife yet. [music and singing] In my heart, you are. Be patient with Ma, okay? She can be a little strong. A little? Baby. I’ll be respectful, I promise. I know. That’s why I love you. Good morning, Mrs. Whitaker. I made breakfast, eggs, grits, turkey sausage, and biscuits. You made this? Yes, ma’am. Hm. Sit it down. Too soft. I can make another one. The eggs are too dry. I’m sorry. And this biscuit, city women love making things look pretty, but the taste does not follow. I’ll do better next time. Do better? You are about to marry my only son. This is not a job interview where you say nice things and smile. A wife must know how to feed a man properly. I understand. No, you don’t. If you understood, Julian would not be leaving this house looking thin. Julian is not thin, ma’am. Are you correcting me? No, I was just saying and You city girls always have mouth. That is the first problem. What are you wearing? My clothes. A woman planning to marry does not need to show her shape around the house. Mrs. Whittaker, we are both women. And my son is a man. Don’t teach him to look at you like meat before marriage. I respect myself. Then dress like it. I don’t dress indecently. Listen to me carefully. Where I come from, a woman covers herself. She does not walk around tempting a man and then claim love. Julian and I have been together for a year. He knows who I am. Exactly. Too much freedom, too much city behavior. I’ll change. Good. And when you come back, fix this food. It smells confused. Ma’am, did you add something? Are you accusing me? No, I just noticed the spoon. Then notice quietly. Baby, this is salty. It wasn’t like that before. So, now you want to blame me? Ma, nobody blamed you. I came all the way from Mississippi to support this wedding and this girl is already trying to make me look wicked. That’s not what I said. Julian, if this is how your wife will treat me before marriage, what will happen after? Will I still have a son? Ma, please don’t cry. Julian, I’m telling you the food was fine before. Baby, maybe it was a mistake. A mistake? Let’s not fight over salt. You see a wise man, he knows peace. You will not marry my son. Goodnight, dear. Girl, why are you whispering? Because his mother is here. And? And I don’t want her hearing me. Naomi, what happened? She hates me. Hates you how? She said I’m too city. She said I don’t dress like a respectable woman. She ruined the food and made Julian think I was blaming her. And Julian? He said maybe it was a mistake. Naomi, No. I need you to hear me. Love is sweet, but love that cannot protect you will embarrass you. Julian loves me. I believe he does. But does he know how to stand up for you? You are not marrying only him. If he cannot draw boundaries, you are marrying him and his mother. I don’t want to fight an old woman. I’ll call you back. Who were you talking to? My friend. Complaining about me? No, ma’am. Good. Because a woman who runs outside to report family matters is not ready for marriage. I was just talking. Then talk less. It helps a woman keep peace. Julian, we need to talk. Baby, can I shower first? No, please. If you shower first, I’ll lose courage. Okay, what happened? Your mother said I won’t marry you. She said that? She said you won’t marry me? Yes. I’ll talk to her. Don’t talk softly just because she is your mother. Talk truthfully because I am supposed to be your wife. You think I won’t defend you? I think you defend me only when it is easy. Naomi has been crying to you again. Ma, did you tell her she won’t marry me? So now I am on trial in my son’s house? Just answer me. After everything I sacrificed for you, you can stand over me because of a woman you met last year? Ma, don’t do that. Don’t do what? Remind you that when your father died, I became mother and father? Remind you that I work with pain in my body so you could wear good shoes and sleep in a warm bed? I know what you did for me. No, you don’t. If you knew, you would not let that girl push me out. She is not pushing you out. Then why am I crying? If Naomi cannot respect me now, she will separate us after the wedding. And if that happens, Julian, I will never be happy in this house. Baby, please be patient with her. That’s what you came back to say? She’s emotional. And I’m not? She’s scared of losing me. And what about me losing myself? Naomi, no, patience should not mean swallowing disrespect until I choke. I love you. I love you, too. That’s why this hurts. You’re losing weight. I’m fine, Mama. No, baby. You are smiling like somebody who cries in the bathroom. Tell me what that woman is doing to you. porch light on for a week or two. Your glass by the sink still holds your lipstick. Catch you on the kitchen floor. On the bathroom floor. Tried to act like time could make it all feel real, but every room leans in. Baby, come inside. Mama, I can’t breathe in this thing. Come on. Let’s get you out of it. Sunday, I can’t tie it up. Don’t shut the paper window. [laughter] Don’t shut the paper window. I waited for him. [snorts] I know. I looked right at him, Mama. I gave him time. You gave him more than time, Naomi. You gave him your whole heart. And he gave his silence. That silence was his answer. No, Julian loves me. Love that cannot stand up will leave you standing alone. Julian, stop acting like somebody died. It feels like it, Mama. Don’t be dramatic. My wedding died, Ma. My future with Naomi died. You stood up in front of God and everybody and humiliated the woman I love. The woman you love walked away from you. Because I failed her. No, because she is proud. She asked me to speak. I couldn’t. My son, I saved you. One day you will thank me. Thank you. Yes, that girl would have taken you from me. I’m not a child, Ma. Then stop behaving like one. A grown man does not chase a woman who abandoned him at the altar. She didn’t abandon me. I pushed her out with my silence. After all I have done for you, you will stand here and blame me? Excuse me. I don’t mean to interrupt. Come in, baby. Mr. Julian, I am so sorry for what happened today. I never wanted to cause pain. Your mother only asked me to come because she believed I could help her speak the truth. You came to my wedding. I know. And I feel terrible. If I could disappear right now, I would. You see humility, a woman who knows shame. Please, stop. Mrs. Ellison, please. I just need 5 minutes. You had 5 minutes at the altar. Please, I regret everything. I know. No, you don’t. If you knew, my daughter would not be upstairs crying into a pillow she used to dream on. Will you please let me talk to her? No. You go home and talk to the mother you chose. Are you going to tell him? Not like this. He has a right to know. And my child has a right not to be used as a rope to drag a man back to me. Naomi, if Julian comes back, it has to be because he finally chooses me, not because I’m carrying his baby. More sugar, Mr. Julian? No, thank you. You always this perfect? Excuse me? Nobody is this sweet all the time. Terrence, don’t be rude. I’m not rude. I’m observant. Cousin, leave it alone. I’m telling you, something about her feels rehearsed. I understand. People will judge me because of how I came into this family. I only want peace. That is a woman with good character. I left the porch light on for a week or two. A glass by the sink. I will love you enough for both of us. I kept your old key on a band ring of steel. Tried to act like time could make it all feel real, but every room leans in when your name comes up. Every loose thread My son, you haven’t eaten. I’m not hungry. You say that every morning now. I’m fine, Mom. No, you are not fine. This house does not feel like a home anymore. Don’t start. I am not starting. I am observing. Ma. Breille does not cook like she used to. She does not sit with you like she used to. She does not even greet me properly anymore. She’s adjusting. Adjusting for 2 years? Yes, girl. I told him I need the whole weekend. I’m not about to sit in this house babysitting people’s moods. I’ll call you back. Breille, what are you wearing? Clothes. You are a married woman. And married women wear clothes, Mama Whitaker. That dress is too revealing. Interesting. When Naomi wore fitted pants, you nearly called a family meeting. Now it is my turn? This family is a mess, and you know it. Breille. What? I’m just saying. I chose you because I believed you had values. No. You chose me because I knew how to act like what you wanted. What is that supposed to mean? Nothing, honey. Don’t stress yourself. My son, God kept you alive. We will take care of you. Ma. How long is all this recovery supposed to take? Breille. I’m asking a question. The doctor explained everything. The doctor explained plenty. He did not explain how my whole life is supposed to stop because Julian can’t move around like before. Don’t look at me like that. I’m being honest. That is your husband. And I am his wife, not his nurse. Where is Brielle? Out. Out where? Your husband needs water. Then give him some. You are his wife. And you are his mother. You want to control so badly. Enjoy it. Brielle, I brought you into this family. Exactly. So, if you don’t like what you brought, blame yourself. Brielle, please. Please what? I need real food. Then get up and cook it. BRIELLE! DON’T SHOUT AT ME IN MY HOUSE. Your house? Yes, Julian. Your money pays for it, but I run it now. The strong person controls the house. And right now, that person is not you. Mrs. Whitaker, are you still sleeping? Brielle, why you shouting this early? Because the kitchen is dirty. I cleaned it last night. Well, it is dirty again. You left those dishes there. And now you found them. God works in mysterious ways. You have changed. No, Mama Whitaker, I got comfortable. This is the same thing I accused Naomi of. Ma. Yes, my son? Don’t argue with her. So, I should let her treat us like trash? I brought this on myself. No, I brought her here. Why are you crying? Soap entered my eye. At your age, you still lie badly. Brielle, please. I am tired. You think Naomi was never tired when you were making her cook and clean to prove herself? Oh, yes, I know everything. You told me proudly. You said city women needed to be humble. You deceived me. No. I studied you. Where are you going? Out. With who? With someone who can walk beside me without needing help. Brielle! Don’t shout my name like you are still in charge. I am still your husband. And I am still young. Brielle. Please don’t do this. You should have thought about that before becoming useless to me. Enough. Whatever wickedness is inside you, fear God. God? You remember God after destroying Naomi’s wedding? [laughter] Rielle, where are my daughters? With my aunt. I want to see them. Why? They are not yours. What did you say? Rielle! Don’t look so shocked. I needed security. You had money, I had children. It worked. My son. My I lost Naomi for this. Forgive me. Please forgive me. I sent away the woman who loved you and brought fire into your life. Take your crying somewhere else. What are you doing? I am tired of your face. This is my son’s house. No, this is the house you helped me enter. Now, leave. Rielle, I have no money with me. Then pray. You like prayer. Leave my mother alone. You can’t even help yourself. Please, at least call Terrence. Walk to Mississippi if you miss it so much. Lord, this is my punishment. [screaming] Ma’am, are you okay? Naomi. Mrs. Whittaker? Please, don’t leave. What happened to you? Where is Julian? Suffering. What do you mean, suffering? Rielle. She fooled me. She fooled all of us. My son is sick, Naomi. He had a stroke. He is in a wheelchair. And that woman is treating him like he is nothing. Please, [snorts] Naomi. I know I don’t deserve mercy from you. I know what I did. I destroyed you. I embarrassed you in front of God and people. I brought another woman to your wedding. I called you names. I judged you. I lied against you. But please, if you ever loved Julian, help him. Don’t use my love for him to beg me. You’re right. I have no right. No, you don’t. I sent away a good woman and brought a snake into my son’s home. Get in the car. You will help me? Yes. I said get in. Don’t make me regret it before we leave this road. Thank you. Thank you, child. I am not doing this because I forgot what you did. I know. And I am not doing this because I am weak. I I I’m doing this because I will not become wicked just because wickedness touched me. Naomi. Mama, please let me explain. Is that Loretta Whittaker in your passenger seat? Yes. Naomi. Mama, please let me explain. Is that Loretta Whittaker in your passenger seat? Yes. The same woman who disgraced you in church? Mama. No. Don’t mama me. That woman broke my child and now she has the nerve to sit IN MY DRIVEWAY. MRS. ELLISON, I deserve your anger. You deserve more than my anger. Mama, she has nowhere to go. And whose fault is that? Mine. I am sorry. I know sorry is small, but it is all I have. Sorry did not wipe my daughter’s tears. Mama. Forgiveness does not mean I am opening my heart like nothing happened. But I cannot leave an old woman on the road. She can come in. But if she raises her voice in my house, I will personally put her back outside. I understand. So, Julian is alone with her? And he is ashamed. He thinks you hate him. I tried to hate him. I tried to hate him. Naomi. I tried, Mama, but hate never stayed. You brought his mother here? Yes. Girl. I know. And Julian? He needs help. This is not only about Julian, is it? Naomi, what haven’t you told me? Julian never knew. Never knew what? When I left that wedding, I was already carrying his child. You were pregnant at the wedding? I found out 2 days before. And you didn’t tell him? I wanted to tell him after the ceremony. I thought it would be our first joy as husband and wife. Naomi. But then his mother stood up. Julian froze. Everybody watched me break. What was I supposed to do? Walk back and say, “Congratulations, you humiliated the mother of your child?” No, baby. No. Are you sure Brielle is not home? She leaves every Wednesday afternoon. Hair salon, shopping, whatever foolishness she does. Yes, Terrence? I’m right behind you. If Brielle comes back, don’t argue with her. Let me handle it. I’m not going there to fight. Naomi, you always say that before trouble finds you. Oh god. What happened here? Stay close. Let me check it out. This is so much worse than I thought. Naomi? Julian. No. You shouldn’t see me like this. And you should not be living like this. I’m fine. Cousin, don’t lie to people who came to help you. I don’t deserve her help. I didn’t come because you deserve anything. I came because no human being deserves to be left like this. I failed you. Yes. I know. You failed me in front of everybody. I know. You let your mother speak over the life we were building. I know. And then you married the woman she brought to replace me. Naomi, I was weak. I was angry. I was hurt. I let my mother convince me that you abandoned me. I didn’t abandon you, Julian. I walked away because you would not choose me. My son, forgive me. I poisoned your heart. Ma, not now. I can’t carry your guilt and my shame at the same time. We need to get him out before Brielle comes back. She’ll be angry. Julian, look at me. Are you afraid of your wife? Help him. Already on it. The perfume on my sleeve still calling me back. Slow rain on the glass and your name in the crack. You said, “Come through soft.” So, I took the long way. Now, you got me undone. Should I stay stay a little longer? Let the room go quiet. If you move any closer, I might not deny you. Hold me like a secret. Hold me like you need me. Come on, let’s go deeper. You hurt my daughter. Yes, ma’am. But you are sick. And this is my house. You will be treated like a human being under my roof. Thank you. Do not thank me yet. Healing your body is one thing. Healing what you broke is another. We already know every little glance got a tender glow. Stay a little longer. Let the night go quiet. If you touch me like that, I might not deny you. Hold me like a secret. Julian. I wanted you to see me standing. I should have stood for you long before my legs failed me. I am sorry, Naomi. Not the kind of sorry that begs you to forget. The kind of sorry that knows I may never deserve what I lost. And while he’s learning to walk, we’re also fixing what Brielle stole. What do you mean? My accounts, my house, my property. She thinks I’m helpless. But we already contacted the bank, the doctor, and the attorney. Quietly. This time, I won’t stay silent while someone destroys my life. Are you ready? I have been afraid of this house for too long. Then let’s take it back. Julian! So this is what my house became. This is not what it looks like. That is always the first lie. I should go. Yes, you should. You cannot just walk in here like this. This is my house. You have been gone for weeks. I was recovering from what you did to me. I did nothing to you. You left him without food. You kept his medicine from him. You used his accounts. You threw his mother into the street. And who are you supposed to be? The rejected bride coming back for leftovers? You have no right to say that. I just did. What are you going to do about it? Do not speak to her like that. [snorts] We have bank records, medical reports, witness statements, and proof that you transferred money out of Julian’s accounts after his stroke. You were spying on me? No. I finally opened my eyes. What is this? Mrs. Whitaker, there are serious allegations of neglect, financial exploitation, and fraud. You need to come with us. You would do this to your wife? You stopped being my wife when you treated me like I was already dead. You chose me. Remember that. Yes. And I will answer to God for it. [sighs] My son, I don’t deserve to call myself your mother after what my pride cost you. Julian, honey, we need to talk. Ma, I love you. But you cannot live my life anymore. I know. I know. I will send you back to Mississippi with enough money and care. But this house, my marriage, my choices, they are no longer yours to control. You are right. Naomi, I know I have no right to ask, but is there any part of you that can ever forgive me? There is something I need to tell you. What is it? When I left the church that day, I was already pregnant. What? Her name is Camille. She is almost two. She has your eyes. Naomi, I didn’t hide her to punish you. I just refused to use my child to beg for a man who could not choose me. I lost you. I lost my daughter. I lost years because I was too weak to speak. You lost time, Julian. Don’t waste the rest. If anyone objects to this union, speak now or forever hold your peace. No one will stand between my wife and me. Not today. Not ever. I love you so much. I love you.